Meryl Runion’s summary of the SpeakStrong in Love TeleSeminar:
The Three Conversations You Need to Have
With Your Intimate (or Prospective Intimate) Partner
A guide to enhanced communication for deeper intimacy
Sixty people joined us last week for a teleseminar with Relationship Expert Jeffrey Armstrong.
I’ve been immersing myself in Jeffrey’s work for months, and every time I hear him, his words hit me on a deeper level.
I invite you to listen to the audio below . If you don’t have the time, I’ve summarized some of Jeffrey’s highlights.
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Ego is the antithesis of love
Relationships succeed when you have the courage to let people see you as you really are. They fail when you succumb to your default presentation of ego and posturing. They fail when you hold back from telling tough truths until you’re sure you’re liked. They fail when you use competitive, strategic communication in intimacy.
Yes, you need to know how to speak competitively and strategically in the workplace, but that kind of relating destroys the delicacy and sweetness of love. You may need to fake it ’til you make it from time to time on the job, but not in intimate relations.
Become emotionally naked. Of course, that’s harder than you know. You learned your relationship skills from “amateurs,” and you need relationship training to drop those old habits. Jeffrey Armstrong says, “Ego fills the space not filled with knowledge.” Learn the skills of love. The primary skills, according to Jeffrey, are communication and massage.
“Relationship by Agreement”
The UltiMate™ Relationship is based on couples serving each other’s health, well-being, and pleasure. Be more far more discerning when you shop for a relationship than when you shop for a car. Determine what you want to have, what you need to have, and what you want to give, and negotiate for the kind of relationship that satisfies your heart and soul. Jeffrey calls it, “Relationship by agreement.”
Of course, agreement goes both ways. You control your intimate partner’s supply of love and affection – and they control yours. If one of you withholds intimacy, the other goes hungry, unless they get their needs met in a way that undermines the integrity of your relationship. That’s why these conversations are critical.
Take the time to define your relationship, and commit to the actions that create that kind of love. Decide how you will and won’t speak to each other, what kind of environment you need, how you serve each other, and anything else that is essential to you in love.
Surrender in love
Nothing could be more satisfying than complete surrender and giving of yourself in love. Jeffrey Armstrong says the magical love couples experience on their wedding day can not only continue, but deepen and grow. It can, and it will, if you bring your best to the relationship and show up authentically.
Those are the key concepts I took from the call. But listen for yourself and extract your own. To listen to the audio and get the whole story, click here.
And to really get the story, attend the UltiMate™ Relationship Seminar.
~ Meryl
Meryl Runion's summary of the SpeakStrong in Love TeleSeminar:
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