August 1, 2008
After I posted about the pleasure of being appreciated as a woman, I decided some clarification is in order. The fact that I see clarification as necessary speaks volumes about our culture.
Please read my previous post before you read further here.
When I refer to being appreciated as a woman, what did you think I mean? Did you assume I mean sexually?
Of course appreciation can include that, but should not be automatically reduced to that. How about other feminine qualities? Like grace, beauty, refinement and creativity? How about nurturing and healing, loving and creating social connections? While these qualities are in no way exclusive to women, they are among the qualities women tend to excel in, and they are also qualities that many women enjoy being appreciated for. Of course no woman wants to be put in a box that undermines appreciation for, say, her business savvy and physical accomplishments. But why not appreciate both as appropriate?
Yes, this goes both ways. What does it mean to be appreciated as a man? I’m finding some new ways I didn’t imagine before – some I won’t elaborate on, and one I will. I invite your thoughts on what you think it means to be appreciated as a man.
The enlightened among us know that we all have male and female qualities, that behind male and female is our divine humanity, and that in many ways, our gender is a costume we wear over our souls. The more enlightened still, know that while all that is true, it feels really good to be appreciated as a woman – or as a man. Male and female isn’t some cosmic mistake. It’s a gift to be enjoyed. If we neutralize our differences it will keep us from experiencing The UltiMate(tm) Relationship.