July 5, 2009
The invitation to joy
Sometimes my friends complain about their spouses about not sharing the intimacy they want. They pull and maneuver and pressure and plot to get their beloveds to engage. Funny thing. It doesn’t work.
But what does work is when they decide they will be responsible to create their own joy. When their sweeties feel both the absence of pressure and the attraction of a joyful partner, it’s impossible to resist.
An invitation to share joy speaks much louder than pressure to get closer to someone whose disappointment is so evident. That takes SpeakStrong to a new level.
July 4, 2009
The power of invitations
It’s an amazing thing – men seem to like invitations better than demands! Who knew? Something about pressure that shuts the heart down. Something about feeling like a disappointment that takes the fun out of playing.
My friends and I have been practicing the power of invitations. Not invitations that are really disguised demands. Invitations that say, I’m enjoying life, and I’d love for you to enjoy it with me. Not invitations that feel coercive. Initiations that leave complete freedom to decline. Not invitations that come from power. Invitations that come from love.
It’s amazing how powerful not coming from power can be.
June 12, 2009
femininspired self-expression
Lee and I had shared several hours together when she told me, her friends think she’s crazy. They accuse her of having done an 180 degree turn. But she hasn’t turned from who she is. She turned in how she expresses herself.
She was always a bit of an adventurer, but now she’s expanding her horizons. her friends think she’s crazy. She knows she’s becoming sane.
She’s femininspired.